The Jackal

The Jackal

The jackal is the attack chair. When we are feeling attacked we attack.It’s can be difficult to remember that meaning resides with the listener. After all, we know what we mean—why don’t they? If you are trying to motivate, get information or move a...
The Hedgehog Chair

The Hedgehog Chair

When we choose to sit in the Hedgehog chair we are still attacking and blaming, however in the case of the Hedgehog we are blaming ourselves, adopting victim status. It’s all about me, and how stupid, dumb, incompetent, worthless I am. The payoff is generally...
The Meerkat (PHEW)!

The Meerkat (PHEW)!

Moving to the Meerkat chair we discover how the meerkat can be one of our best friends! Pause. Breathe deeply and consider, What am I thinking? What am I telling myself? Take a moment and consider, what if the opposite of what I am thinking is actually the truth. Our...
The Giraffe Chair

The Giraffe Chair

Once we are clear what we want from our communication it’s time to move into the Giraffe chair and consider what the other person wants. If you are a human being person you are likely to be looking for connection, respect, trust, appreciation, and...