People Do People Things. Having Feelings is a People Thing

Although we try to pretend otherwise, feelings are part of life. Becoming aware of what we are feeling and learning how to manage the expression of our feelings is part of a thinking person’s evolution. In non-violent communication, our goal is to overcome the language of diminished responsibility. What do we mean when we say the language of diminished responsibility? Blame talk is one version of the language of diminished responsibility. Blame talk “tags” the other person as the “problem”. If the other person is the problem the solution is outside the realm of our control. We are absolved of the responsibility for a positive outcome.